I wish I could tell my pregnant self…
I spent so much time in pregnancy worrying about everything. I’m 6 weeks pp and wish I could tell my past self these affirmations. Won’t be true for everyone, but I hope at least seeing this gives a pregnant FTM some comfort that having good experiences is possible:
- your body knows what to do during labour
- the epidural will work
- the birth will happen as you imagined
- you won’t feel the tear
- newborn tired is easier than pregnancy tired
- your baby will let you sleep just fine after a few weeks
- your baby is not made of glass so you don’t have to be perfect
- you will figure out how to feed your baby
- you will love your baby and know what to do
- help is available when you need it
- your husband will rise to the occasion of fatherhood
- your in-laws will back off when you tell them to
- no one will question you if you tell them to wear a mask
- no one will hate you if you say no to visits
- it’s okay to cry every day
- the crying will stop
- the pain is temporary
- you will fit into your jeans again
- you will sleep on your stomach again
- you will graduate from gestational diabetes
- the jaundice will pass
- you will return to the world again
- you will connect with people again
- your brain will return to you
- babies don’t need much, so your house is ready for the baby
- the stretch marks aren’t so scary
- the bleeding isn’t so scary
I feel very fortunate for the experience I’m having as a FTM. There’s a lot of fear on the internet so I wanted to add a perspective that things can go well.