Hysterectomy in 30s
I’m currently trying to make the decision whether to have a hysterectomy. Largest is 6.3cmx8cm, 5cmx4cm and then two more around 2cm. Turning 34 this year, married, don’t want kids with my husband but I have dark thoughts that if my husband suddenly died tomorrow and I were to remarry and the other partner really wanted kids, I might be willing to do it if I loved that person enough. But nothing wrong with my current relationship and we are both happy not to have kids and I’m just running every crazy scenario in my head. My gyno said that based on the size of my fibroids and my age that the likelihood of getting fibroids again is high so I would likely need another surgery down the road since I have a long ways to go until menopause. My family doctor keeps telling me that it still might not happen to me as everyone is different so seems to rather push for drugs to reduce the size or a myomectomy to preserve the uterus. I guess she just doesn’t want me to regret it. I have two days of really heavy periods (need to wear tampon plus overnight pads) and have accidents when I sleep. I’ve always had high pain tolerance but noticed I’m getting pretty bad cramps now and need to pee more often than my girlfriends. I’ve also been genetically blessed to be very skinny throughout my life and never had to diet (usually at 100-104lbs) and I’ve suddenly noticed my weight has become 109lbs the heaviest I’ve ever been. My stomach now looks like I’m 3 months pregnant and a lot of pants barely zip. I know it’s shallow but I am so unhappy with how I look and can’t tell if I’m just gaining weight or it’s the fibroids. I think they are closer to the back and I can’t actually feel them when I press down like some others so am I just gaining weight or is it the fibroids? I don’t think I’ve changed my diet or exercise much compared to before.
Have any of you done the hysterectomy at this age and how was your experience? I plan to keep my ovaries but also want to know whether others kept their cervix and why. I’m concerned about my sex life after but don’t know if the cervix really matters. Did any of you also experience early menopause as a result and what was that like?
Thanks for listening. I’ve been silently reading through everyone’s experience in this group and it’s great to have this community! 🙏🏻