Almost down to none...
Well, been lurking for a while now. M47 HL her 41 LL, married 16yr, together 25 with 2 kids in their late teens. Amazing sex life in the early days which died off for a bit when the kids where born but was still reasonably often and definitely wasn't vanilla!
Then several years back Something turned the switch off! Once a week, then once a month until now that I can count on 1 hand how many times we've been intimate in the last 5yrs. And that's only ever whens she's been drinking! Nothing more than a quick kiss for birthdays or fathers day.
She's had some issues before so never really pushed the matter, though usually ended in an argument if I tried to talk about it, so just pushed on. Her excuse being she has no sex drive and that's that, though it hasn't seemed to ever stop her using her toys on herself whilst I'm at work..
I'm 90% there has been infidelity in the past but could never prove it so let it slide. (When we first got together she made me wait 6 months to see if I was genuine before we did anything even though she was still hooking up with ex's)
Then after my last b'day (April) I decided to really try get some resemblance of our life back, went well above, engaged in conversation every chance I could, tried to make sure the house chores were all done, tried my hardest to make it a happy Mother's day but still just got abused for petty shit!
Figured I'd make this week work no matter what, then tonight after getting in bed I gave her a 30min back massage, made sure not to make it sexual in any way, she thanks me and rolls over, 5 minutes later I look over and she's texting her girlfriend back and forth with pics of some local 30 something hot male model, both of them gushing over his body and tattoos!
Pretty much broke me!
Was always hoping to be one of the lucky ones and get our amazing sex life back! But chances look slimmer every day..
Sorry for the long one, but think I needed to get that off my chest!