For context, I have been in and out of terrible, abusive relationships since I was 15. Several have ended up in restraining orders, homelessness, and attempts on my life. I thought I was in a good one, then that ended abruptly recently. (I am polyamorous so I started the relationship I'm looking for advice on just before the one I thought was good ended.)
This guy I'm dating (we've been official for about a month, and seeing each other for about two) is really sweet, funny, and takes time to see me every week, which I've never had. He's intentional with making sure I'm okay with gestures and we've talked extensively about sexual preferences because we've both got some trauma.
Now, to the part I'm worried about. He pays for almost every date, buys me sweet treats and breakfast after sleepovers, and even has stopped in to see me at my job.
None of my other partners have been so... Idk, happy to be around me. He hasn't talked about a future together, more than wanting to make this relationship last. We had one big almost fight and he broke down crying saying I deserved better. (It was an honest mistake that hurt my feelings. We talked about it and things are good now.)