i’m going through a breakup right now and i’m honestly just confused on what the right move is.
me and my ex didn’t end on bad terms at all. we both still care about each other a lot. the issue was more on me. i didn’t really express my emotions the way i should’ve and i would internalize a lot instead of communicating. over time that took a toll on her.
when we broke up, she didn’t say it was over forever. she said it was more like a “bye for now” and that she still wants it to be us eventually, but that she needs to focus on herself and heal right now. she also said she’s doing this because she loves me and wants what’s best for both of us.
that’s what’s making this so hard. it’s not a clean breakup where i can just accept it and move on. i feel stuck in between holding on and letting go. part of me feels like i should wait and work on myself, but another part of me feels like i’m just holding onto hope that might not lead anywhere.
i’ve been trying to respect her space and not reach out. i was thinking about waiting a couple months and maybe reaching out around her birthday just to check in. but i don’t know if that’s the right move or if i should just fully commit to no contact and move on.
i’ve also been struggling mentally a bit since it happened. my mood’s been down, i haven’t really been eating or sleeping the same, and my mind just keeps going back to everything.
my main question is:
should i treat this like a full no contact situation and move on completely, or is it okay to hold onto the idea of reconnecting later since she said it’s not necessarily forever?