AIO - bf entitlement
First Time poster here. I (50f) have been with my bf (52m) for about 10 years. We don’t live together, and we are very different people. He lives around the corner from my house, and drops in whenever he wants. Usually for a couple of hours after his work and on weekends for coffee (unless it’s his weekend over here). Lately, he’s been super grabby and when I’ve asked him to stop doing it so much, he gets annoyed and then goes on a rant about how lucky I am that he still finds me attractive and wants to touch me constantly. The wording set my teeth on edge but it’s what he always says.
Today I tried reversing it on him and told him he should think about his logic regarding my house. As in, HE should feel lucky that I don’t have an issue with him showing up unannounced several times over a weekend (not to mention going through all my cupboards and fridge and making comments that I dont have ‘anything good’). He got really annoyed, said why should he let me know he’s coming over, then said I was the one who should be grateful he comes here instead of other places.
Then he got grumpy and left. I’m getting tired of this entitled thinking. At least that’s what it feels like to me. He’s usually a sweet guy and we laugh hysterically much of the time. But this thinking that he’s doing me favors … I’m a well-educated tech worker with a mortgage. I’m not insecure or needy, and I’m starting to think that’s an issue for him. Thoughts? He’s a fundamentally good guy, just with issues (he’s bad with his money is #1).