Hello. I have been trying to understand if something that happened two years ago was sa or just my partner at the time reacting slowly? We were making out on my bed and I wanted to stop so I asked if we could wait. I didn't think she heard me so I asked to wait a few more times (I'm not sure how many, sorry). I was underneath her so i tried to get up but she deepened the kiss by putting her tongue further down. I didn't know what to do so I just asked her to wait again and she didn't hear me. I ended up just putting my hands on her chest lightly so I could create some distance between us. I don't know if it was sa but i did messsage her (after we broke up) that i thought it was sa and just warned her to be more careful in future because i dont believe it was intentional. She reasonably reacted quite aggresively and I've been guilty ever since because of my uncertainty as to whether it was actually sa or just an uncomfortable situation because of her slow reaction.
I haven't been able to enjoy kissing anyone ever since but i dont know if its because i've convinced myself that it was sa or something like that.
Please let me know what it sounds like to you. Did i incorrectly label it sa? should i apologsie to her if it was? What should i do?