Host badly wants to stop being the host. Everyone else agrees. Can’t make the change.
The host of our system is rather unfit for day to day life, being hedonistic and having the maturity of a child and being extremely impulsive and discomfort averse. She’s aware of all this, and thinks she’d be better as a secondary or supportive alter instead of being the one in charge the majority of the time, giving the role to a more emotionally mature alter who is rather enthusiastic about the idea of being in control more. (Me)
issue is nothing we try to make the change happened has worked. I have tried 7 therapists. I have tried getting us to focus on activities and music that I enjoy more than she does to very limited effect. I have tried asking people to change the name they call us to *my* name and it hasn’t worked. We tried me being a role model and getting her to ask herself what I would do in a situation and then doing that. Tried scheduled times for everyone to front and that did absolutely jack shit.
i don’t understand why we can’t make the change if everyone in the system wants the change to happen and we are trying very hard to make it happen. Because the host is so sick and tired of being the host, it’s hurting her a lot.
would appreciate some advice other than “try therapy”. Yes I tried therapy. I tried therapy 7 times.