u/Fluid-Muffin-

The first picture shows how my curls used to be before pregnancy and the next one is my current hair. During my pregnancy I lost my curls completely, but around 3-4 months post partum they bounced back a bit, starting from the roots. Now 13 months post partum I have noticed the same kind of pattern that happened to me during the pregnancy: I am losing my curls again because the roots are getting flat. Clarifying shampoo and protein treatments that used to help, don’t do nothing to the roots, but creates ringlets and waves everywhere else. So I basically got my curls to lose them again. Has this happened to anyone? The curls are gone, coming back a bit and then disappearing again? I am still breastfeeding, so it might play a role.

Current routine:
Clarifying shampoo or moisturizing shampoo
Skala conditioner
Curlsmith Feather-Light Protein cream and Curlsmith Frizz Rescue Curl Retainer gel.

Me and my husband (both in our late 20s) have been married for 2 years. In the beginning of our dating, I made it clear I wanted to have 2-4 kids. And my husband said he wanted to have 1-2 kids. We now have one child together. During my pregnancy my husband told that this is the first and the final child he will actually have. That brought some arguments between us, but understanding that it is his decision and I can’t change it, I tried my best to come in terms with it. I used to work on my own way of thinking and deciding that one child is enough and I should be happy for what I have now. But since it is not fully my own decision, it has became an obsession to me. Every time I see families with more than 1 kid, I become envious. I can’t help it. However, even with these thoughts in the back of my mind, I’ve gotten semi okay with it.

Suddenly my husband told me a week ago that he actually wants to have a second child with me, like right now. I thought he was trolling me. He convinced me he wasn’t. I got so delighted that he actually changed his mind. But I told him that maybe we should wait a bit and try for the second child later this year. Today he told me he was actually just trolling me and wanted to see where I stand with my opinion nowadays. I feel like he opened my wounds I desperately tried to close. I am currently crying and feeling very much invalidated. He apologized for it, he’d be ready to even go for a therapy with this, but I can’t help it, I feel so betrayed. I wanted to spend my life with him and not to break the family, but now I don’t know where I stand.

My curls are gone. Has this happened to anyone?