Am I wrong for reacting after almost 2 years of hypocrisy
So I’m in my 30s and feel this is really dumb. I’m in a residency program that lasts 2 years. I have a few other coresidents. Two are a married couple. I have had several instances where both try to use the moral high ground to honestly bully other residents to see patients using phrases like “ well my schedule is busy, and you had the opening” or “the patient really needs help sooner than I can see them”
Let me start with I have no issue with helping patients. But I don’t find it fair that they get to draw lines in the sand but when it’s reversed like someone else has a patient, it’s then turned into “I don’t think I should see a patient that’s more familiar with you. Or you know the situation better, you made the plan so you should see them”.
They constantly help each other out, taking each others pts and the complain they never get help from other residents. They also don’t offer help unless faculty is around.
They also have befriended a lot of faculty and spend time outside of clinic with them and have won favor to a point where I’m confused how they get away with taking longer to do procedures that should honestly be faster, monopolizing faculty, and directing schedule changes and patients to suit their needs.
One will consistently have other people see his patients because “they need the requirements” but have them do more than they have to.
Recently I saw a patient 3 months ago for an exam and recommended treatment and gave a referral. That didn’t work out so it’s on to plan B. Since then this pt saw my coresident for other treatment. We were both contacts by the specialist to coordinate plan B for the patient. I am the only one who ended up responding days later. I decided we could split the responsibility since he’s been similar in the past with other pts. When I told him I coordinated the plan B referral, if he can just call mom since he’s last saw them and they’d probably remember him most recently, he then said “you did all the work why don’t you call them?”
He then progressed it to emails telling me about wha the considers the standard of care. That any patient we see for an exam is our sole responsibility. This isn’t the case as we see thousands of patients and often get scheduled with different residents as we cycle through.
I know I’m not without fault here and it’s not a tit for tat but how can I address these yexperiences with my boss as this coresident now wants to take action saying I crossed a line when I responded in kind to his insinuations that I don’t want to care for a patient.
Any advice or thoughts would be helpful. I have only a few more months but I’m exhausted and dread going in every day.