u/Fluffy_Yam_6003

i mean honestly, i cant see too much of a difference.

i guess pan folks might be have less preference for one over the other, while bi folk lean more one way or the other, but thats about it.

im asking this about a meme where apparently some people didnt know being bi included trans people. seems to me that most bi people love trans folks. i know i do. i wouldnt say i swing for all flavors of the differing genders, like very masculine and very feminine from cis folks, but idk.

seems to me more linguistics than anything. if thats the case, ill stick with bi. feels like a more comfortable title for me, plus people more generally know what bi means over pan.

im realizing im a bi man for the first time (made a post about the realization if anyone wants to check that out), and im starting to consider broadening my dating net.

after changing some options on my dating profile, i was suprised to notice how many guys are messaging me. it can take me a week to find one or two matches when it comes to women, but in the last 2 days i already got 10 matches (and some uncomfortable messages).

so far ive rejected all of them. im very picky with guys and will tolerate no creeps, as i expect women to treet me if i give off an uncertain aura (not to say i give off creep vibes, just i know that you need to be safe when managing strangers). its very strange seeing this side of the spectrum. it can be flattering, even if awkward because im not vibing that way, but a noticeable portion of it has me feeling "fuck off, jackass" before i block them.

so im wondering what others perspectives on the differences are of others perceptions of you coming from men and women. for me, it feels more with women that you are going through a dance of getting to know each other before becoming closer with you, while men are much more forward in intentions, more shooting first and asking questions later.

do you notice a difference? am i missing anything or overgeneralizing? its a pretty weird period for me and im reconsidering a lot of what i thought i understood.