u/Fluffy_Afternoon652

I've been able to get back my strength on all lifts since my shoulder surgery 3 years ago. I'm focusing on overload. I'm up to 3 sets of 10 reps on over head press at 200lbs using hammer strength machine rather than barbell. I've been getting some pain in my shoulder that I had surgery on so I have recently started skipping OHP and lateral raises out of fear of reininjuring my shoulder.

For others that have had similar surgeries what lifts are you avoiding and what lifts do you recommend for shoulders?

I started lifting weights again about 9 months after my surgery. I'm now 2-1/2 year post surgery. I've been good on avoiding anything behind the neck. For example I can't do squats because my ROM is not 100% on that shoulder so it's too painful. I've gained all my strength back. Through my journey I've had some soreness in the shoulder that tends to resolve after letting it have proper rest. I'm up to 200 lbs on over head press 3 sets of 10. I've been experiencing more pain in my shoulder. Typically after lifting. I figured that since I'm building new muscle that shoulder will be more painful than the good shoulder and that's just how life's going to be if I keep lifting. For others that lift, is it normal to feel some pain 2-1/2 years post op? Should I completely back off shoulder exercises to see what happens? Just confused if this is normal or if I should try to get an MRI to see how my shoulder has healed.

I started lifting weights again about 9 months after my surgery. I'm now 2-1/2 year post surgery. I've been good on avoiding anything behind the neck. For example I can't do squats because my ROM is not 100% on that shoulder so it's too painful. I've gained all my strength back. Through my journey I've had some soreness in the shoulder that tends to resolve after letting it have proper rest. I'm up to 200 lbs on over head press 3 sets of 10. I've been experiencing more pain in my shoulder. Typically after lifting. I figured that since I'm building new muscle that shoulder will be more painful than the good shoulder and that's just how life's going to be if I keep lifting. For others that lift, is it normal to feel some pain 2-1/2 years post op? Should I completely back off shoulder exercises to see what happens? Just confused if this is normal or if I should try to get an MRI to see how my shoulder has healed.

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