I've posted on this sub before about the same cousin (Reena). Basically her and I don't get along very well and Im going to be getting engaged soon. She's very conservative and I am very much not. She constantly posts about how being gay is a phase, and i’m Bi. She just committed to one of the most homophobia schools in the country for school.
Her and I have always had a rocky relationship.
I plan on asking my closest in age cousin and the cousin this posts about (Reena) to be my maids of honor. At this point in my relationship with the cousin in question I’m seriously considering cutting her off.
She has serious ego issues and I know she would cause a problem on my big day. I’m torn because she is family, however, I don’t want to jeopardize my happiness for her.
I’d your willing to offer an opinion please do!
I’ll attach my previous post below:
So I (F19) know I’m getting engaged soon and I’m trying to decide who to pick as may maid of honor.
I’ve always leaned towards having a member of my family be my maid of honor, specifically, my cousin, as I have four female cousins, all of which I have an active relationship with . I’m particularly close to two. Let’s call them Emma and Bea.
Emma is six months younger than me and Bea (Still underage) is essentially a mini me. I’ve thought about making them co-maid of honors and know that would work well between and honestly, they would have no issue sharing the role.
The issue come with my cousin. We’ll call her Reena. She’s incredibly jealous and condescending and her and I have never been especially close. She’s Beas sister.
I know for a fact if I pick them Reena will freak out. (More context available upon request).
I also have a best friend. We’ll call her Stacy. She’s everything you could ask for in a friend and she and I have known each other for around six years now. I could easily pick her a my maid of honor and be beyond happy, however, I have always imagined a member of my family in the role.
Is it won’t the risk to ask my cousins? Should I go with my friend?