I got fired again by not saying yes to advances of male superiors (rant)
I need to vent. I also don't know the right words for it but I just know that this a thing women experience. It's always the same type of guys; I see them immediately liking how I look and also thinking I am dumb because I am a woman. At the same time they treat women around me that they not deem attractive like non-human. And if your "exotic" you get it worse.
At one point they try to hit on me in always the same gross ways... like some creepy sexual boomer jokes ways..."oh you are eating a hot dog so you like sausage, I have a sausage you can munch on harharhar"... most often also calling me the wrong name because that is how much they care about female workers that we are always just the former girl they harassed. And then when you are not interested you get the revenge-treatment.
I notice when I try to talk about this with male friends/family that they do not understand. They understand the revenge part because being a shitty rejected person is unisex, but not the women-part. It always goes hand-in-hand with me being a dumber human.
This job again had it like these type of guys just told me I am dumb in my face at the first meeting. I often feel as if I am insane if I tell people that this happens often. But I know I'm not. Next to women you also see them treat "foreigners" or "low-wage workers" like that.
I'm actually not fired; some "Steffi" is fired. The boss dude decided I looked like Steffi Graf because I'm Dutch and he thinks Germany and the Netherlands are the same place of course and he knows no other German women and forgot hé decided to call me Steffi and that is not my name at all...so me being fired is addressed to Steffi... it's so tiring and I don't know how to tackle this behaviour because they are the bosses. It keeps happening over and over for 40 years now and I kind of want to know how to tackle this.