My bf (19M) keeps suggesting I (19F) should change my appearance. What does this mean?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months, but we have known each other and were close friends for two years. I have always had the same look and similar style, but that's just because I like it. For some context I am blonde, and like to dress cutesy and idol-esque (Japan and Korea kind of outfits), my favorite color is pink, and my outfits are always very colorful. My boyfriend on the other hand is more alternative, more of a skater style with piercings and tattoos. He has always complimented me, called me beautiful, said my outfits were cute, etc. Except recently he started suggesting I change my style. It started as him saying I should get tattoos, which I didn't think much of because he loves tattoos. So when I had mentioned I would be open to getting a tattoo, I had shown him some cute colorful tattoos I liked, and he said that I "should get something cooler like cybercygilism" (which are cool tattoos but are very clearly not my style). I brushed it off and didn't think much of it until he started suggesting that I should also get piercings, suggesting I should get a septum and pierce my lip, my eyebrow, etc. I told him I think that they're cool but I don't want to have face piercings. It started to bother me a bit that he kept telling me I should get piercings and tattoos, but I didn't say anything because I just assumed he wanted me to be more interested in his interests. I started talking to him about maybe getting the side of my nose pierced and he was excited, but he continued by suggesting that I should dye my hair black. I didn't even know what to say to him at that point and I kind of just stared at him. It felt really bad hearing him say this like he wasn't attracted to me how I am. I asked in sort of a petty way if he would prefer if I looked like that and he responded with "well it wouldn't be bad if you did" and then he said he was just joking. I just ignored it and moved on from it but now I don't know what to think about it. He's made these "suggestions" multiple times and every time I get upset he just tells me that he's joking.