My boyfriend’s ex girlfriend has texted me to warn me.
Yesterday at 5am I wake up to a message from my current boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend warning me about him - explaining that throughout their 3 year relationship, he turned out to be physically and financially abusive. She “implored for me to hear her side” and offered to send videos from an “altercation” between the two of them.
I am with him for only 2 months, without any signs of worrying behaviours. Our dynamic is structurally different as we are in a long distance relationship, where physical abuse is limited.
I am a bit conflicted over this situation: I am not completely dismissive of her accusations, as I am only with him for 2 months. But I am also taking it all with a pinch of salt, because not two relationships will be the same.
Besides dealing with my own insecurities, of why she stalked me to track my instagram down (she said she found out about me through a Spotify playlist on his account, but I don’t know how she got to my instagram considering they don’t follow each other), and the normal worry of if this her trying to get him back.
I was yesterday introduced to his family, so I guess that tones down my fear of him being shady towards me and our relationship. But still. I have not told him, as he’s spending time with his family on holiday - maybe by fear of his reaction towards me or her, and because I don’t plan on acting on the accusations, just be aware.
What would you do in this situation? Would you tell him?