I (21F) think I am falling out of love for my boyfriend (22M). What to do?
I have been in a happy relationship with my boyfriend for 3+ years. We have been in ldr since last year. I had been having doubts about his single colleague, say X (22F). She had drunk called him in the first week of work which I found inappropriate. My bf, X, her roommate Y and Y's bf became really good friends but I kept telling him to stay away from X.
I went to meet him recently and met X as well. I didn't get any evil vibes and I told him it was okay hang out with her. He even shifted his pg to the side of the city where they live in.
Few weeks back, my bf and X were drunk af in Y's bf's flat. He told her that he found her "sexually attractive" and according to him totally broke down on realising what he said. X consoled him and then tried to kiss him and my bf says he turned her away.
My bf told me this the very next day. Apologised. I forgave him. A week later I asked him not to hang out with X for obvious reasons and he told me that night was majorly X's mistake and not his. I think that was the point I started feeling distant.
Last week, I talked to him about being unsure about our relationship due the issue. He went on about how "finding someone sexually attractive" was very different from "being sexually attracted to them". I keep telling him not to go out with X's friends group but he says that he doesn't have any other friend to go out with.
I am genuinely not excited to talk to him nowadays. I feel like he will excuse his actions with logical jargon everytime. He is a really good guy. He cares about me. My only problem is his changing behaviour. I want to move ahead with this relationship. What to do? How do I fix this relationship?
P.s. I do not want to break up over this thing. We have come a long way and I wanna try to fix this at least.