I don’t know what to do anymore about my situation
So I wanna start off by saying I’m 30 weeks pregnant and I have a 4 year old and me and my mother always had a rocky relationship it was never good my mother was always physically and mentally abusive towards me growing up and my older sister it was never really a healthy relationship ever my sister moved out when she turned 18 and I took all the abuse until I turned 18 and left when I was almost 19 I’m 24 now but I cut contact with her when I moved out and it stayed that way for a year straight I finally let her back into my life after she went to counseling everything was going okay nothing to bad she was a good grandmother but then things went bad all sudden but so this all started because she yelled at my toddler and I got on to her about it because I don’t like others yelling at my toddler when I don’t even yell at them me and mother got into a very bad argument where she said she wish me and the baby I’m pregnant with dies in labor and told my children to their face she hopes they dies i snapped completely because who tells a toddler that i went off her completely losing all My temper and afterwards i got my fiancé to come get us immediately and left and haven’t talked to her since then it’s been a month since I blocked her on everything and cut contact but since then she been telling everyone a different story which I’m not surprised she always does but my family didn’t really believe her but they called me telling me about it but the thing is my family is having a dinner in two weeks I don’t won’t my child around her nor do I want to and but my family are saying I should forgive her they completely switched up but they are saying you know how your mother is and want me to bring my toddler and myself but my mother is gonna be there I said no immediately about it because I don’t won’t to see or speak with my mother the only person on my side on this is my cousin and my sister respecting my decision on cutting contact and not even wanting to go to the dinner or bring my child around but now some of my family members at begging me to come I keep saying no all I can think about is her words and how she told my toddler to their face that she wishes they was dead and how my baby cried my family don’t understand that hurt me more than anything I told them that but they still keep begging me saying she didn’t mean it they keep telling me I’m in the wrong for not forgiving her since we always fought in the past yes I get that but this is different and on top of everything I’m extremely high risk I can go into labor any time and I don’t need the stress I just don’t know what to do anymore
I just need advice on what i should do because I’m completely lost I just wanna protect myself and my children