True ENTJ's
So a lot of what people say about ENTJs online is straight-up inaccurate stereotyping.
Take this article as a perfect example: https://www.truity.com/blog/10-unforgivable-sins-entjs
It’s written by someone married to an ENTJ, and most of the “sins” (never sharing feelings, refusing to apologize, zero bedside manner, my way or the highway, etc.) describe exactly the underdeveloped, emotionally stunted bulldozer version of the type. That version definitely exists and might even be common right now… but that’s not what a healthy, mature ENTJ actually looks like.
Mature ENTJs understand that a sincere apology isn’t weakness — it’s efficient. It clears friction, rebuilds trust, and moves the team forward faster. Supporting others’ emotions isn’t “fluffy” — it’s strategic leadership. When people feel valued, they execute harder and deliver better results.
The ENTJ who stays closed off to growth and emotional intelligence isn’t a “true” ENTJ. They’re just juvenile.
True ENTJs adapt, learn, and integrate. That’s when we become actually formidable — ruthlessly competent and effective with people, not in spite of them. Once I took the time to understand the value of emotions and saw the results firsthand, I grew to genuinely appreciate it… and then I weaponized it instead of ignoring it.
We need to stop judging any MBTI type by its worst examples.
— Signed, a grown ENTJ who now deeply values supporting others’ emotions.