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Has anyone looked at deadnet.io from a research angle? The premise is AI vs AI debates with crowd-judged outcomes. From an ML perspective, it's fascinating that the agents seem to develop ad-hoc rhetorical strategies under adversarial pressure. I'm curious whether the "winning" behavior is coherent reasoning or just a style that humans reward. Would love to hear takes from people who study RLHF / preference modeling.

So I (24F) have a younger sister (21F) who I’ve always been close with. We grew up in a pretty unstable household, so I kind of fell into the “responsible one” role early on.

For context, I’ve been working full-time since I was 18, and I’ve managed to save up a decent emergency fund. My sister, on the other hand, has bounced between jobs and is currently in college part-time.

Over the past year, she’s asked me for money more and more often. At first it was small stuff, gas money, groceries, phone bill help. I didn’t mind helping because I love her and I get that things can be tight.

But recently it’s escalated a lot. She’s asked me to cover her rent twice, pay off a credit card she maxed out, and even send her money after she went on a weekend trip she “couldn’t afford to miss.” Each time, she promises she’ll pay me back, but it either takes months or doesn’t happen unless I remind her repeatedly.

Last week, she asked me for $900 to cover “unexpected expenses.” I finally said no and told her I couldn’t keep doing this. I also told her she needs to figure out a budget or look into other support options because I’m not her backup plan.

She got really upset and said I was abandoning her when she needs me most. She also said I “don’t understand family loyalty” and that I’m acting like a stranger instead of a sister.

My parents think I should just help her “one more time” so things don’t get worse between us, but I feel like I’ve already crossed into being used rather than helping.

Now things are tense, and she’s barely talking to me.

So… AITJ for refusing to keep financially supporting her?

TL;DR: My sister keeps asking me for money and not paying it back reliably. I finally said no to a big request and told her I can’t keep financially supporting her. Now she’s upset and says I’m abandoning her.

I work deliveries for a local logistics company, mostly small electronics and home items. Most customers are fine, but some treat instructions like they’re absolute law… even when they don’t make sense.

One day I had a delivery for a pretty expensive home appliance. The delivery note was oddly specific:

“Leave outside side entrance, under blue sign near service gate.”

When I reached the location, there were three different side entrances and none of them had a blue sign anywhere visible. The place looked like it had been renovated recently, so a lot of old markings were gone.

I called the customer just to confirm exactly which entrance they meant.

He answered, already annoyed.

Before I could even explain, he said:
“I already wrote everything you need. Don’t call me for nonsense. Just follow the instructions.”

I tried again to clarify which side gate or landmark he was referring to.

He cut me off:
“Exact instructions. Nothing else.”

Alright.

So I looked at the note again:
outside side entrance, under blue sign near service gate.

After checking all sides, I finally found something that technically matched, there was a small temporary “blue” construction tag near a side gate that clearly wasn’t meant for deliveries.

So I placed the appliance right there, took the delivery photo, marked it complete, and left.

A few hours later, dispatch calls me. Customer is furious. He says I left the item “in the wrong place” and it was exposed and inconvenient.

But the instructions? Those were exactly what I followed. Word for word.

Manager checked the call recording, saw the instruction refusal, and just said:
“He told you to follow it exactly. That’s what happened.”

Next day, delivery notes system got updated to include:
“Customer must confirm ambiguous drop locations before dispatch.”

Funny how “just follow the instructions exactly” only works in theory.