Hey y’all,
I’m (M,24) trying to decide whether to keep bettering myself or make a move. I’ve known this woman since 2022, and she’s gave me hint after hint recently about wanting a relationship. I’ve held off since not only was she in a relationship not too long ago, but I’ve tried taking time to focus on myself before jumping back in. My ex and I broke up at the beginning of February and since then I’ve lost 40lbs of fat and gained roughly 15lbs, along with going from a 3X to a 2x being loose on me (still 290lbs sadly). I’ve kept waiting until I was the “ideal man” for the average woman, but recently was taught that’s next to impossible unless I fully change my identity.
I am just wondering how others feel about this and if I should just keep the friendship and keep going through change (physically & mentally), or if I should she how it goes and if she wants to attempt a true relationship as I’m not into “hookup culture”. I appreciate any advice and hope everyone here is doing well.