u/Flashy-Way-3977

Was opening a box today and my mom was mad at me because she called me repeatedly before and I missed the calls because my phone was in sleep mode as I’m usually asleep at this time. She got mad at me and told me that she needs to be the exception to all of my restrictions on my phone.

I was opening a box using scissors to cut the tape and she started laughing at me and told me that I needed to work on this in the life skills training (I’m an autistic woman, extremely high functioning) I’m doing because I’m not doing it properly at all. I explained that this is the way I do it because it’s easier for me and it doesn’t hurt the contents of the package because I’m careful and she just kept laughing and told me that she can’t possibly treat me like an adult when I act like this.

I go back and forth on whether my mother is a narcissist because she can genuinely offer good advice sometimes but most of the time I just feel useless when I’m around her. Has anyone experienced this from their Nparents?

My narc parents are divorced, my mom is better than my dad because my dad is a child rapist and physically abused us and my mom isn’t/didn’t, but she still isn’t pleasant to be around. We saw Lady Bird together and she said she related a lot to the mom, and they’re pretty identical.

Anyway, point of this post is my parents will hold money over my head as a way to either win my love or obedience. During arguments I’ve told my mom that I won’t talk to her when I go to college in the fall, and she’s told me plainly that she will revoke my entire college fund if I do so or if I committed before the deadline (when she wanted me to commit). She uses my screen time limits and funds she has set aside for me as leverage to gain my submissiveness.

My dad, due to being low/essentially no contact with myself and my siblings, uses it differently, as a way to buy our love because he knows presents/holidays/gift exchanges are the only time I communicate with him.

Anyone else have a similar situation? Advice welcome but thankfully I don’t have to live here much longer :)