u/Flashy-Number-7230

We’ve been married for 4 years. It was nice and romantic in the beginning. Slowly it fizzled out due to several reasons. Now we’re trying to reconnect. Last week, I came back from a 2-week long trip, he came to pick me up at the airport, just hugged me - no kiss nothing. We got in to the car to learn that he was on a call with a friend. I got upset that we were meeting after such a long time and he couldn’t even kiss me and talk me after picking me up. It felt like a lukewarm welcome.

He is a very caring, soft spoken person who does a lot for everyone around him, including me. But I can’t help but be mad at him for his lack of passion. He touches my body without a nice kiss and I do not like it. I have told him multiple times but he says that I have a sequence which if not followed, I get upset. He does not enjoy kissing for some reason. But I do! I’ve tried showing him many romantic movies, instagram reels so he understands how women like to be loved/touched/given attention to. But I do not see/feel that in my life. Sometimes I wonder if it’s me that lacks the attraction from my side. Am I wrong?