Am I too sensitive?
Hi,
So the situation is this:
I have an almost one-year-old baby. I live in a foreign country, far away from my own parents, but my in-laws live nearby.
They are great and very helpful with babysitting, and I appreciate that. The problem is that it feels like they’ve become overly attached to my baby. They always want to hold her, even now that she’s learning to stand and walk. They always want to be the ones feeding her or putting her to sleep. It feels like too much sometimes.
Whenever my husband or I are holding her, they often come over and say, “Here, let me hold her.”
What hurts the most is that they sometimes act as if my baby loves them more than she loves us. For example, when they visit and leave in the evening around her bedtime, she gets cranky, and they’ll say things like, “Oh, she’s upset because we’re leaving — she wants to come with us.” Comments like that really hurt me.
I can’t really talk to my husband about this anymore because I’ve brought it up too many times already, and it’s damaging our marriage. Honestly, I feel like I don’t love my husband the same way anymore because of all this.
My in-laws can be very pushy. My husband agrees with that, but he also says I’m being too sensitive.
And on top of everything, we’re about to move next door to them for a few months. My husband promised it would only be temporary, and I agreed to it.