Boyfriend says he’s not happy…
My boyfriend (29M) recently sat me (26)down and told me he isn’t happy anymore. He said it’s because we haven’t been having enough sex, I don’t want marriage or kids right now, and that I’ve had an attitude problem. Honestly, I froze. I just said “okay, I don’t know what to say,” walked away, and cried.
For context, last July we bought a house together and have been renovating it. I also recently started training for a new area at my job, and I’ve struggled with a really low libido. Looking back, I do think my attitude hasn’t been the best lately because of stress at work involving a certain coworker, but I genuinely didn’t realize how much it was affecting him.
After that conversation, I distanced myself because I was in shock. We barely talked, and I ended up packing a bag and staying at my mom’s house for a few days. When I came back, we talked things through and things actually seemed great for about a week. We were communicating, spending time together, and having sex almost every day.
Then suddenly something changed. He stopped calling me “babe,” stopped texting first, stopped touching me, and just seemed emotionally distant. When I asked him what was wrong, he kept saying, “I’m fine. We’re okay. I just don’t feel like myself. I don’t know why I’m acting like this.”
It kept going on like that, and we started arguing more. Now he says he might hold a grudge because when he first opened up to me, I didn’t really respond or fight for us in that moment. Before we got back on good terms, I did tell him that this situation really opened my eyes and made me realize I needed to make changes in myself. Since then, I’ve started therapy and seeing a psychiatrist, which honestly has been helping me a lot already.
I guess I’m just wondering if anyone has been through something similar. Is this something couples can come back from, or does it sound like he’s already emotionally checked out?