Daughter (13) may have been sexually assaulted - what can I do?
I apologize that this may be lengthy; I'm not sure if I will be able to condense this.
My daughter had a checkup last October and she expressed she was feeling sad about something. I was asked to leave the room so the doctor could talk to her alone. After that, the doctor recommended that she start taking depression medication and seeing a therapist. I agreed and she started her medication right away and I looked into finding a therapist for her. I was finally able to find her a therapist in January, but after the initial consultation, my daughter no longer had interest in therapy. She had also stopped taking her depression medication. I remember mentioning to her around this time that she could always come to me if she needed to talk, but she said that that's just what people say. I let it go because I didn't want to pry and hoped that she would come to me when she's ready to.
Fast forward to now, I was trying to find a blank notebook for taking notes. I ended up flipping through one of her old notebooks and found a journal entry from last summer. She mentioned that she couldn't sleep and that she did a quiz online to find out if what happened to her was sexual assault and the quiz said it was. And how she wants to run away from home or kill herself, and how she hates how she looks and said she feels like a fat pig (she's normal weight for her height, then and now). She mentioned in her journal entry that only a few friends know what happened to her. I feel bad that I snooped but I'm glad to have an idea of what she might have talked to the doctor about.
I'm devastated that something happened to her and she's not comfortable telling me. I've always tried to be there for her and let her know she can always come to me for anything. We even have a secret code that she can send me if she's in an uncomfortable position when she's at a friend's house or wherever, so I would drop everything and come get her. She may not want to tell me since I remember there was something that she told me before and I said I'd have to tell her dad, whom I'm separated from, so maybe she's worried I would tell him about this. But I would not tell him, because both her and I know that his first reaction to everything is 0 to 100 anger.
Any advice on how to navigate this would be appreciated.