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Has anyone experienced this irritation in the foot (pinky toe), ankle, or side of the foot (on the side of the THR) after THR when your leg is tired. I had a history of back pain. I also had an MRI from 2020 that showed my lower lumbar vertebrae were damaged, with the second to last showing signs of damage. This was caused by my hip. Delaying this surgery might have made it worse. So I asked ChatGPT (I know), and I told it my history of lower lumbar damage and the weird feeling in my pinky toe. It told me that I might be compressing a nerve when tired and pushing on the L1-S1 nerve, which ends in the pinky toe, causing irritation where it ends. Has anyone else been actually diagnosed with this or also feels this weird numb, tingling feeling? Did it go away by itself? Did physical therapy help, or is this permanent?

Also, my back pain hasn't improved, sadly.

"NSFW because i mentioned SA as a minor"

I got exposed to porn and SA at 8 years old, I was abused by one of my male cousins. I have then proceeded to watch porn daily for the next decade before i realised how harmfull it was for me.

Since then, I have been making efforts to stop. I usually relapse around the 3–4 week mark, often due to triggers like boredom, hunger, stress, pain, or sometimes curiosity. Afterwards, I always feel regret and disappointment.

The main issue I am struggling with now is sex dreams. Whenever I reach around 3–4 weeks without porn, I start having sexdreams almost every night. These dreams feel very real in the moment. I sometimes wake up feeling confused or even guilty, as if I actually relapsed, even though I know it was only a dream.

For example, today I had another one of these dreams. When I woke up, it felt like I had broken my streak, and it took me a moment to realize it hadn’t actually happened because the experience felt so real.

These dreams are becoming difficult to manage because they can be intense and emotionally triggering. Even after I wake up, the content sometimes replays in my mind despite trying to distract myself.

I am worried that this pattern may eventually lead to relapse, especially after a few days of these recurring dreams. I would like help understanding why this is happening and how to better manage it. And if it will even stop after a while.

Context: I am a virgin due to religious reasons. Had never expierienced sex or even seen a woman naked in real life. i am now 21 years old.

Hello, i am not sure if this is the right sub for this but.

I’m dealing with a really frustrating situation with my older brother and I don’t really know how to handle it anymore, so I wanted to ask for outside perspective.

He has a pattern where in almost any conversation, he interrupts, talks over people, and if you disagree with him he will restart his entire argument or change what he originally said. It often turns into long circular discussions where I barely get to speak, and if I do, he either cuts me off or says I misunderstood him later. He also aknowledges that he speaks a long time 20-30min (without me interrupting) But then proceeds to tell me i speak the whole time and im not letting him speak. (which is vise versa)

Todays argument was that he deleted a lot of my old memories from my childhood account that I had saved on our shared storage. These were really important memories to me. Videos of me and my old friends and fun memories of mine. He said it was because of storage space, but instead of talking to me first, he just deleted everything. I would have happily bought extra storrage space or backed them up if he had asked. Even after I explained how much it meant to me, I never really got a proper apology or sense of accountability from him.

This isn’t the only situation like this—he behaves similarly in small daily things too (miscommunication about simple stuff, changing what he said, avoiding responsibility, etc.). It feels like no matter what the topic is, it turns into the same pattern. For example, we had a driving moment where he almost clipped another car while exiting a parking area and had to brake hard (even the cars emergency brake activated). I even joked “I turn left, good luck everyone else” referencing a meme because it was so close. But afterward he completely denied that anything happened and acted like there was no near-miss at all, even though it was very obvious in the moment. It made me feel like I was being treated as if I was crazy. I even thought in my head hes lying in my face even with something so clear.

We live in the same house, so I can’t really avoid him completely. I’ve tried staying quiet or not engaging, but eventually I end up back in these situations again.

How do you deal with someone like this long-term without losing your sanity or constantly getting dragged into arguments?

Hi everyone! I’m now 9 weeks post-op and wanted to share a bit of positive progress.

Over the past few weeks, I’ve been averaging around 3–4k steps a day. Some better days I reach 5k, and on tougher days it’s more like 1–2k, but overall there’s been clear improvement. I’m now walking outdoors with one crutch, and indoors I’m starting to rely on it less.

I still notice stiffness after sitting for a while, and walking without a crutch isn’t always smooth yet, but I’m already doing much better than before surgery—which feels like a big win. For context, I was averaging only about 500 steps a day for months pre-op.

Lately, I’ve been doing 300–500 meter walks once or twice a day, plus a longer walk of around 600–800 meters. Today, I hit 1,000 meters (1 km), which I’m really proud of! It’s been a few hours since, and I don’t feel much discomfort.

Just wanted to share some good news and hopefully spread some good vibes to anyone struggeling with the first few weeks that it gets better.

I have had many talks with my dad about wanting to get married soon. He always suggested me to go back to Somalia and they can get word around quick and its gonna be easier etc. to set it up in an halal way. I am always open to this idea but i am not trying to move permanitly to somalia right now. I still have studies here and i wanna stay here for the time being. I was born here so this is my comfort place basically. So any of the brothers that have done this how was the process. If its to much hastle i am fine with just finding someone near me. Just wanted to get some opinions from people that have expierience with this.

I am thinking of studying abroad, i wanna get in to a medical degree but i am ofcourse not there yet with my diplomas. I was thinking should i first get a bachelor of science and then apply with that as i am not sure what MBO-4 and VMBO-TL even means outside of the dutch system that no other country uses.

Context:

I am 21 years old male. I got these 2 diplomas

- MBO 4

- VMBO TL