My boyfriend (25M) and I (26F) have been together for two years.
About six months ago, he opened up to me and said he wasn’t feeling attracted to me. I’m a bit chubby, with bigger boobs and a bigger butt, and although I’ve struggled with self-esteem in the past, I was actually feeling really good about my body at the time. He was kind in the way he expressed it and suggested that maybe his porn consumption was affecting how he felt. He tried to cut back, and eventually things seemed to improve.
But that conversation really devastated me. I had been feeling confident in my own skin, and after that, I became quite depressed. I started feeling uncomfortable taking my clothes off, and every time we’re intimate, I feel like I need to hide my body.
Even now, six months later, I still haven’t been able to fully relax during intimacy. He’s always affectionate and shows appreciation for my body, but I can’t stop wondering: can someone really regain attraction after saying they lost it?
For the past three months, our sex life has mostly been me doing things for him. He doesn’t really do anything to satisfy me, which leaves me feeling both frustrated and rejected.
I honestly don’t know what to do. I feel like I can’t fully trust that he won’t suddenly change his mind again about something so fundamental.
I feel like I’m going a bit crazy 😅