Low effort family
I know I come from a low effort family. I have been aware of this since my mother stopped attending my parents and teachers meetings at school because she "didn't have time" but I would get home and find her watching tv.
I don't know why this has bothered me so much but it has.
About a month ago my nephew had a birthday party, my mother didn't get him one single gift or even wished him a happy birthday.
He is about 14 months old and my mom only saw him once despite living in the same city as him and his parents.
Now I live hours away, I have to catch 3 different types of transportation but I still make an effort to connect with them.
After the party, I stayed behind to help them clean and reset their home and they were very appreciative. While we were cleaning my cousin asked about my mom and I was so tired of it and I just told him the truth.
I'm very tired of her trying to maintain a good image while she couldn't care less about the people around her.
I truly do not understand why she's calling herself "the grandmother" while she lives about 1 hour away and doesn't even visit them or talks to them. And she actually has offended the baby (she called him ugly but now denies it).
The next day I was telling her about the celebration and that were were setting something else to do and she promptly said we should do it on a specific day because she's on vacation. So she doesn't want to talk to the people she supposedly wants to see but wants them to consider her schedule???
The low effort doesn't bother me when it's directed to me but being directed at a child is really pissing me off.
I had a difficult relationship with my cousin while growing up so now I want to build a better relationship with him and his family so it's driving me insane how everyone just doesn't care to include him.
It feels very silly but I'm angry about it