Hello!
I am a gay bottom cis man and my boyfriend is a bi top trans man. We are both 30. He has had top surgery and plans to have bottom surgery. We have been together for one year and overall I m happy with him and sex is great but sometimes I just really miss being with a cis man (for the genitals and other typical male body shapes) and those moments make question my relationship because I don t feel fully satisfied... We thought about opening the relationship but I m not sure I want that or that it would solve the issue. For anyone out there who has experienced this situation I would be thankful for your insights of the following questions:
- Did opening the relationship worked? i.e you got "dicksatisfied" and it made the relationship stronger and more fullfilling? Did the opposite happened and you realized you wanted to end the relationship?
- Did bottom surgery solved the issue to the point of not needing some "external dick"?
- What moment told you "yeah he is the one for me despite everything" or "I love him but this relationship is not for me"?
- What questions should I ask myself to really know whether I want to grow old with him or not? How to let go of these moments that make me doubt my relationship or to accept that what I want is to be with a cis man and let go of this relationship?
Thanks for reading and wherever you are I wish you an awsome day :)