“So what you are saying is you can't handle 2 kids?” That's what my husband said to me when I expressed to him that him taking a poop for an hour and a half in the morning, the busiest time of the day, when I haven't showered in two days, is inconsiderate. For context, I am a SAHM (2 under 2) and he works maybe 16 hrs a week or less. I haven't slept in months as I am a breastfeeding mom of a 5-month-old. He believes that because he covers the bills his responsibilities are complete. He thinks he is helping me if he does anything with the kids, which he does randomly but not consistently enough for me to depend on him being responsible for the task. He does a lot of sitting on the couch on his phone holding the child that is not crying while I deal with the child needing attention.
Don't let me get into his full control of the finances while letting me stress about the bills that 100% apply to me before he sprinkles the payments for them (defaults and all). Btw I realized that he spends ~$700/month on sports betting. I am working on something to be able to cover my own expenses because this is added stress.
I honestly feel like life might be easier as a single mom but it would mean I would have to put my kids in daycare and that's against the whole reason why I became a SAHM. When I met my husband I was independent and I expressed to him that my goal was to be a mother and SAHM. I feel like he played me to convince me that's the dynamic he desired as well just to turn around and tell me he likes an independent woman.
Idk what I want from posting here. I just need to vent because I don't want to run to family and friends and paint a bad picture of him to them.