My husband wasn't always this bad. But in the last few years, yeah things have become so shit.
We have a special needs kid. I've had to multiple times tell him to stop wearing headphones and watching YT on his phone around our kid. Because it is incredibly disrespectful to block them visually and audibly. He. Just. Keeps. Doing. It.
He barely does anything around the house either. I do almost all the cooking, cleaning and childcare despite also working full time.
If I ask him to do or not do something, it maybe lasts a couple of weeks maximum. Then, straight back to the same behaviour.
He has ADHD. I've asked him to tell his psychiatrist that his treatment regimen is not working. I doubt he has done this. He has a therapist too; I doubt he does anything they suggest either.
Yes, pretty sure he has depression too. I still don't accept this as a valid excuse. Similar reasons, I doubt that other than taking meds, he does absolutely anything his therapist suggests.
So yeah, there have been numerous and repeated fuckups he has been making. Both minor and major. I am a deeply flawed person myself. I am at least trying to address issues though.
And today, he forgot my birthday. I had to get up at 5:30am to look after our kid. I spent the morning doing that and housework, and making myself breakfast. He got up shortly before 9am. Said nothing to me when he got up, just got himself a drink. I just shut down completely at that point. I cooked lunch for us, still nothing.
It got to the point that he was eating dinner and I flat out asked him if he forgot. He admitted it at least.
It isn't like he was unaware it was coming up. I'd mentioned that I wanted to organise a party. I'd mentioned this just days before. And I told him I didn't want a present, just a foot massage or something. And still, I didn't even get to sleep in, not even a happy birthday.
So, yeah. I'm feeling so burned out with this crap. I don't know if he even gives a fuck about anything except his stupid puzzles on his phone or brain rot on YT. Even if he does care, I'm just slowly checking out completely.