u/Fit_Apricot2567

hi everyone. i recently posted something to the US. its an envelope with a few things inside that i was gonna ship like that but then the post office lady said that because its 5mm < i cant post it like that so i ended up putting the envelope into parcel packaging. I lied on the tariff form because there is money in the parcel (105 AUD) and because they put the tarriff form on the front of the parcel, i figured if i wrote how much was in it, someone might steal it cause they'll see the declaration.

this is where it gets complicated. i also checked the box that says "gift" when it asks what the nature of the content is.

the thing is... it absolutely is a gift. however, on the front of the letter inside the parcel, i printed a fake logo with my name on it and made it seem like it was a package from a pen company which would probably fall under a commercial package. i did that because i thought it initially was going to sent just in the envelope with the logo in front. and i did the logo because i thought it made it more inconspicuous so no one would think anything of the envelope.

inside the package is three empty pens (without the ink thing) with 2 $50 dollar notes and 1 $5 dollar note rolled and tucked in each pen and then bubble wrapped.. this package is also to my ex which we recently broke up and there is a little letter with some personal stuff that id rather airport security not open and read. on the tariff form, i did say there was pens and a $5 note. i said $5 because i figured its a half truth and no one would risk their job to steal $5. but im worried if they open the package cause its suspiscious , theyre gonna see the rest of the money and the really weird drug deal-y way i put it togeher and im gonna be in big big trouble. my question is - how bad will the big big trouble be?

for anyone wondering why im sending money overseas to an ex bf...

we broke up and he sent me a gift because he was trying to show he loved me and i feel bad because i know he cant afford that gift at all and we're also broken up and he's just wasted his money now on a woman that he's not with anymore. i begged him to give me his transfer details so i can wire him money but he wouldnt let me pay for it so i sent it physically. and now im worried i will be arrested. i will say though, i have tracking info for the parcel and it says it cleared australian customs and is ready to be shipped overseas but i dont know if american customs do more than us in regards to checking the parcels etc.

any help or advice is appreciated!! i know i sound like an idiot but im just a stubborn woman still in love with her ex : ( who did not consider the law when making decisions

right now, im thinking of calling the post office and telling them i forgot to write the other 50 dollar notes on the tariff form and asking them if i'll get in trouble. i know thats luying guys, i just dont wanna go to jail lol

UPDATE: i realise i was just overthinking it guys sorry!! panicked for a sec tee hee no jail time for me

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u/Fit_Apricot2567 — 12 days ago

hi everyone. sorry this is a bit long but id really appreciate if you read it and gave me some advice, even if you have to be harsh. I (23f) met my bf (26m) online over a year ago and we love each other. he's a pretty reserved guy and we had very different lives growing up so the way we communicate or even think about some things isnt the same at all. he also has mentioned a couple times that he wants to marry me and be with me forever and generally does mention us being together in the future as one does in a relationship. we also tell each other we love each other (he tells me more than I tell him just because i didnt grow up saying that to anyone and as i write this i dont know if he did either..) however, recently ive been having these really awful thoughts that are so unfair to him. and i feel so bad having them because i know he probably doesnt feel that way. but basically ive been comparing myself a lot to his exes and i dont even know anything about them besides a couple of their names. i have never even kissed anyone and he has slept with 5 people. he's even done anal. i just feel inadequate but at the same time i feel like surely he must miss one of his exes.. i dont know. i know these are irrational thoughts. but i cant stop myself from believing that he's still in love with one of his exes even though i have literally no information to back that up. i dont even have a gut feeling. i just dont know why i keep thinking like this.

he lost his virginity when he was 13 so i feel like he has years of experience on me. and i feel jealous. i feel jealous that he's been with other girls and i would never leave him because of it , i know everyone has a past. but these thoughts just flood my brain and im scared im gonna start resenting him for it, even though he didnt even do anything wrong. i guess what i see online has a lot to do with it too. like you know when you see those videos that tell women that their boyfriends first love is unforgettable and the rest of their partners will never compare etc. and ive never had a boyfriend before him so i dont know what it feels like to have a partner, break up and then have another one later. i also am scared that because he's done enough of it - he misses sex and wants it more than i do and we cant do it cause we live in different countries so maybe that something to do with it im not sure.

and the way he acts now, he is SO sweet and i have no doubt he loves me deeply and wants to spend the rest of his life with me and i can be a nightmare sometimes so that means a lot. ive even told him i do want 3 kids and that i know he doesnt and he said that he has never really wanted kids and never been with someone who he felt like he would have kids with and said that its not something he would be opposed to with me. which i think is really sweet. everytime i struggle with the distance or i miss him and feel bad over the fact that we can't be together, he's always the one thats strong and helps me feel hopeful about the future and tells me that its hard but we'll get through it and that he loves me and the logn distance is worth everything thats to come. idk. im just trying to convey that i know that he loves me. and i love him so much. which makes my thoughts even more irrational.

i dont know. i know im being ridiculous but please help me.

just to clarify i dont think low of him or anything of the sort. i know this is a me problem.

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u/Fit_Apricot2567 — 12 days ago