What to do to an abusive father
Problem/goal:
My dad has been abusive toward my mom since we were young. Despite all the pain and hardship, my mom never left him.
Context:
For background, my parents were never married. My dad was previously married before entering this relationship, although he and his former wife legally separated. I also have older half-siblings.
Growing up, my dad was unfaithful. At one point, he even got our maid pregnant, although nobody else knows about it except me.
Two years ago, my brother saw my dad bringing our maid into his room. He reviewed the CCTV footage in our house and discovered that it had happened multiple times. When confronted, my dad denied everything.
My dad has always been very self-centered and narcissistic. He refuses to acknowledge his mistakes whenever any of us confront him about his behavior. Since I was young, I have always been afraid of him because of his temper and abusive tendencies. Despite that fear, I still try to confront him and make him understand that his actions and behavior are not always right.
Fast forward to today, my dad has become extremely abusive both verbally and physically, to the point that it happens almost every day. He constantly accuses my mom of infidelity, claims he lost a lot of money because of her, and blames her for all the misfortunes in his life.
My mom rarely fights back because whenever she does, my dad becomes even more angry and abusive.
My dad previously suffered a mild stroke, and I am not sure whether it has affected his mental state further. However, the abusive behavior already existed long before the stroke.
My main concern now is how to protect my mom. I currently own the family business, and my mom manages most of the operations with me. My dad is also involved in overseeing the business, which makes the working environment very difficult and stressful for everyone.
I no longer live with them because I already have my own family and live in a nearby city.
At this point, I do not know what the best course of action is. I am considering reporting the situation under VAWC because of the ongoing abuse. I also believe my dad may have serious mental health issues, but he refuses to acknowledge or seek help for them.