Am I wrong for feeling like we lost our own home to family?
My husband and I worked really hard to save money after getting married, and we were able to build a house in the Philippines for ourselves and our future family. The plan was always that this would be our home whenever we come back, since we’re currently working abroad to save more.
Here’s where things got complicated. My husband’s sister already had two children and was staying in our house even before she got pregnant again because she doesn't want to stay with her partner. At first, we tried to be understanding. When she became pregnant and said her pregnancy was “sensitive,” she asked if she could continue staying there so she could rest. Of course, we didn’t want to be heartless, so we agreed.
But now it feels like things have gone too far. Whenever my husband and I come home from abroad, we don’t even have a place to stay in our own house. We’re the ones adjusting, finding somewhere else to go, while she continues living there full-time.
What hurts the most is that she’s slowly replaced our things with hers. It no longer feels like our home, it feels like hers.
I understand she’s family and she’s going through something, but at the same time, this is the house we built with our own hard-earned money for our future.
I don’t know if I’m being selfish or if my feelings are valid. What would you feel or do in this situation?