I (30) female have been dating my (27) boyfriend for one year. Overall, it has been a great experience. He is supportive, attentive, and includes me in all aspects of his life. My only concern is that as we get more serious I have noticed that he sometimes does not follow through with commitments with me or even ones he makes with himself. For example, he says he wants to lose weight but does not act on it (I have been trying to encourage him because I want to as well). He wanted to start a podcast together, he bought all the equipment but did not do anything. He wanted to learn my native language (Portuguese), started and than stopped. He wanted to invest in art stuff bought and iPad used it for a week and stopped.
What has been bugging me in regards to our relationship is a commitment he made when we broke up for a day. He suggested that we communicate on the phone everyday after work to talk about our day before bed- before hand we usually did via text and we do it everyday when in person. He has never been a crazy phone person and we see each other almost everyday so I never pushed it because I am not a crazy phone person either. However, since he made that promise and did not stick with it for a long time it has been bothering me. Yes, I have communicated it to him multiple times. When I talk about he will did it a couple times and then stop. I told him why it bothers me-it reminds me of my dad and his empty promises (even though he is nothing like my dad). It still triggers me.
There are other things as well such as we both still live with our parents-we want to move in together but even though he has a decent job, he has a high car note/insurance rate and he's parents asked him to stay another year. He has a loyalty to them and I think he wants to wait that whole time. Luckily, I get along well with his parents and they welcome into their home- I stay there multiple times a week since it is closer to my work. However, I am 30 years and I am ready to settle down but it does not seem like boyfriend is?even though he tells me is and wants to. I know he loves me and I love him too a lot but love is not enough.
I would like to add that he is an extremely hard worker and his job is physically demanding- he also helps out a lot in his home. He does do a lot for me and will do anything I ask- but I do not always want to guide him about our relationship or his life. What do you think?