Should I stay in this partnership?
My partner is an alcoholic. He drinks heavily every day. His excuse has always been "I worked all day, so I need a drink when I come home," but even on his days off, he wakes up at 7 am and starts drinking to the point he is wasted at 3 pm and is incoherent and passes out before we can really enjoy our weekend. Every time I confront him about his alcoholism, he manages to find a way to blame me for everything, rather than have a peaceful conversation about his drinking. I honestly just feel so defeated; this is an argument we've had for maybe 5 years now. Nothing has changed; he still blames me for everything that has nothing to do with his alcoholism as a way to avoid the confrontation. I love him, but I am so worn out. Tonight I confronted him again, and he used my biggest trigger against me in the argument, knowing that I trusted him with such sensitive information. He has NEVER crossed that line before. I am in a lot of pain from that. I know I need to move on, but this is a deep relationship & I truly love him & want to help him get better, because I know he is an excellent man despite his addiction, but it has been years with no change. I don't know what to do at this point.
AITA for telling him he should leave if he refuses to help himself?
(When I said this, he used my weight as a rebuttal, my biggest trigger, knowing I’ve dealt with an eating disorder for many years)