u/Fine-Living-473

A year ago I met my ex on a dating app and for a long time we were vey happy together till he broke up with me in October of last year - it was because he wanted kids and I was (and still am) apprehensive about it, but he mentioned other factors he never explained to me. Anyways, after the initial break-up, we remained no contact for maybe 2 weeks till he reached out to me and expressed wanting to talk, and I agreed. He then ghosted me for another 2 months before reaching out to me again in January, once again saying he wanted to talk to me as long as I was okay with it, which I was and accepted wanting to talk to him in hopes of working things out. And again, he ghosted me.

Finally, roughly 3-4 weeks ago he reaches out again, and this time he sounds more serious and sure about himself. He told me how he felt pressured to 'move' on or how he always felt like every time he reached out it felt too soon, he would tell me how he hasn't been able to get me off his mind and how he's always talking about me subconsciously, and he even went as far as to tell me how he still loved me and will always continue to love me. I was so happy and overwhelmed with relief that I jumped into it head first, and for a good week he was so promising. He would call me everyday, we started playing videogames again (even minecraft which was our first game together, it was his idea to start a world again), he texted me goodnight and good morning like how he used to, and overall it just felt like we haven't spent any time apart, it was like no matter how far we were from each other we were always destined to fall right back in place, and he agreed with me. But after a bit he starts to get a bit more inconsistent - it wasn't even gradual, it was just sudden where one day he answered my call and then just radio silence. No warning, no signs that this was where it was headed, just gone without any explanation.

I still haven't heard from him despite it almost being 3 weeks since he last spoke to me. He still follows me on TikTok and Instagram, he even looks at my stories (he might skip through them, but he hasn't unfollowed me for some reason). He blocked me from calling his number since I just go straight to voicemail, but I'm still able to text him without any complications. This whole situation has me confused and upset because I don't know why he's doing this or why he would choose to do this after promising so much and making it seem like we were going to get back together after taking things slow. I still love him even though he's betrayed my trust so many times, and a part of me hopes we can still make it work, that we're both just young and figuring things out for ourselves. He doesn't have the easiest life and his family is very hard on him, especially his dad, so I want to give him some grace considering last we talked he had a lot on his plate. He's also currently in Utah while I'm in California, if that has some sort of dictation over his decisions.

Any advice on how to handle this going forward? Or why he's acting out this way despite everything starting out so promising?

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u/Fine-Living-473 — 13 days ago