They should just stop with these lmao
Strength classes are on point.
I haven’t seen one Yoga class align with the actual class instruction lol.
Not a deal breaker as I can disband it from the screen but it cracks me up every time.
Hi there,
First time poster here.
I am a 35f step mom to a 20m step son. I’ve been here for almost 9 years, SO and I share two small children, 5 and 7.
Long story short = I am disengaged but present. I am here but he is also not my responsibility. It turns out being an engaged step parent is not for the weak(I am in awe of you all) and I had to step back years ago.
BM is sort of, not really in the picture. She lives 40 mins away from us but practically wiped her hands of him after he graduated. She doesn’t try texting or calling him anymore. He used to go there on weekends but ever since he turned 18 that seemed to stop. I know her personal life is a bit of a train wreck. I always assumed he’d go live with her in the city because there’s more job opportunities and bussing, but she would not let him move in with her unless he got a job and helped pay rent. Which really is how it should be. I’d be implementing that on my girls.
SS is a full time gamer. He’s an introvert, few friends but he doesn’t seem to show signs of depression. He’s not unkind, but as much as I hate to say it - he’s lazy. Not once has he had to lift a finger (that’s why I basically became disengaged because I had no support as the new “step in” mom. My SO basically assumed I’d save the day and do all the hard work for him. I don’t know this for sure but it sure felt that way at the time.)
He doesn’t go to secondary school. He doesn’t have a licence and he doesn’t have a job. He turned 20 in May and has only ever sent in two resumes for summer positions.. he’s been here since after grad and not once applied for a job. It does bug my SO but it’s like he doesn’t realize how not okay this is for growth and life experience.
We do live in a rural area so the jobs are limited, BUT - there’s work. I suggested the Co-op grocery store but my SO would say, “oh he wouldn’t like that.” Dude… first jobs are never great. That’s why we need to experience them. It’s extremely frustrating to me and I’m starting to feel a lot of resentment towards them. I’m a SAHM and as much as I love it, I do not enjoy SS being around with no stress in the world and not helping. He lives in his room pretty much the whole day, but I still can’t help but feel annoyed. It’s not like he’s a bad kid, he’s not and he’s quite smart.
I must have some sort of mental block myself because I can’t seem to muster the courage to tell him to get a job or help with a chore. It’s like I freeze, I get insane anxiety. We don’t really talk much as it is, but for me to suddenly go, “go get a frigging job” - I couldn’t handle it.
Anyways, sorry for the rant. I don’t know where else to really go to for advice or anyone else who can relate. Those of you with major roles as a SP, I have serious respect for you.
I can’t risk my SO seeing this so I’ll probably delete it later but yea.
My favourite band in the world released their 10th studio album on Friday. Metric. Canadian Indie band. Underrated these days.
I would give my left arm for an Emma Low Impact class to Metric music. I’m the only one in my social circle who truly appreciates their music. I can’t be the only one. lol