u/Fine-Flight-8599

sorry, english isn't my native language, I try to describe The situation as well as I can.

So my friend is in a relationship with a guy. Everyone close to her has told her to get out before it escalates. Now she doesn't trust her family or friends, because she thinks we are trying to separate them out of malice.

Her boyfriend has never been physical (atleast I don't know about it), but blames her if she gets harassed (she shouldn't be in a bar), doesn't let her get a certain job (not sexual in any way), blames her immediately If she even mentiones an another man. He has destroyed random peoples stuff, just because they annoy him and threatened with violence.

He is alcoholic, has said it himself (former drug user, but I don't want to judge him solely because of that).

My friend is on a autistic spectrum, but doesn't want people to patronise her. I understand that, but she has also told me that she has a lot of problems with social cues. For example she didn't see a problem with him forbidding her to have that job (even though she wanted to go).

This is The best I can do to explain it. Atleast ten people are worried about her and has said about it. I ofcourse don't want to pressure anyone to do anything, but how to help her maybe realize things herself?

Edit: also she has send me a little worrying text about how nothing else matters as long as she has him... And described like literally nothing.

first of all english isn't my native language so bare with me!

But I truly need to make a huge change in my diet, because of The liver. I have pretty much lived on just soda and fast food... please don't judge me, but I have had severe mental health problems for years.

I don't know if I even have energy to start to cook my own food. I'm not sure if I have ever as an adult eaten home made food three days a row. I sometimes notice after three days that I haven't drank any water during that time.

I'm surprisingly at a healthy weight, but I'm truly scared for The future of my liver if I don't cut sugar, processed food, high amount of saturated fat... please help me, how did you do it?

I put The general tag, because I don't really need advice, but I want to have some kind of discussion about this. You don't need to be careful with your words, nothing is going to trigger me (okay, normal politenes is preferable :D)

So I have very severe OCD. I have had obsessive compulsions for 15 years now. Everything I do in life is to prevent harm towards me, even in exhange of distressing others. I seek reassurance to The point of exhausting everyone and "using" them as a source of my peace. I know that it's not true peace, but it sure feels like that.

If I'm not trying to relief myself with other people, I am focused on optimal future. I need to accomplish things before certain deadline. They are usually about appearance or money/career.

Now that I have lived with OCD and been kind of spiritual for years, in my opinion OCD would not be able to happen without ego. It's actually very huge manifestation of ego. I'm not blaming anyone with OCD, because we truly don't have The same ability to control our actions than people who don't have it. ofc there is therapy and medication to it, but before that it feels like literal death to do something differently or to not do it.

But now that any medical treatment hasn't worked, I need to do something, because I kind of am a harmful person to others. I also try to control what they do (specially in a relationship).

To The people who don't know about OCD, it's basicly The extreme end of overthinking + trying to prevent anything happening at all cost. So it's kind of also The exact opposite of being in The present moment, which is something I want to be able to do.

So what are your thoughts? feel free to comment on some other mental health problems too (If you have experience or a lot of knowledge about it).