u/Financial_Emotion732

I’m curious to understand this from both male and female perspectives, and also what kind of age gap is generally considered socially acceptable versus socially taboo.

For example, I’ve seen women in their early to mid-20s dating or marrying men in their 40s. Some people seem to view it as completely normal, while others judge it quite heavily.

What’s your view on relationships with large age gaps?

My gf is a business development manager at an MNC. As part of maintaining client relationships, she meets client teams in different settings—hotel lobbies, Starbucks, offices, or over meals. Sometimes it’s after office hours or even on weekends.
Her clients are mostly overseas, so this happens about once or twice a month. They arrange transport to pick her up, and she keeps me updated—lets me know when she arrives and even sends photos of the client team.
They also call her late at night (around 10–11pm) to check on business matters.

Recently, I found out this isn’t actually within her official scope of work—she’s doing it on her own initiative to maintain relationships, and she’s not really compensated aside from occasional gifts.

When I say client team, it’s mostly 2 rich cheeko pek and their secretary (who, according to her, was hired more for looks than ability).

If you were in my shoes, would you be okay with your partner doing this just to maintain client relationships?

And when I confronted about it ,she said to break up if I m not happy with what she is doing and she has to pick the client over me . We been tgt for 4 years and she is 28 and I m 27.

I graduated in early 2025 from one of the local universities with an average GPA. Soon after, I joined an MNC and I’m approaching the one-year mark there.

During my time in the company, I’ve played a part in closing projects worth $300 million, along with many smaller millions deals one after another. I’ve had the opportunity to work with directors from some of the most reputable firms in the industry. But in the end, they still report to someone else. There always seems to be another level above; head of SEA,head of Asia …

Yes, you can climb the ladder. You might earn a low six-figure monthly salary, drive a nice car, and own a cozy condo. But at the end of the day, you’re still waiting for management approval to move forward. And often, those at the top are so busy they barely have time for a proper conversation—calls nonstop, meetings overlapping, overseas projects, constant travel. 9-9 working culture. I can feel the stress just by looking at them.

What struck me most is that near the later stages of a career, people seem more interested in asking, “Who’s going to take over your position?” rather than appreciating what you’ve contributed. Senior management has even shared openly that reorganizations happen every two years to bring in fresh ideas and new strategies. In other words ,they r willing to let u go if the KPIs for not being able to meet.

So it makes me wonder: why climb?

For those of you who chose to pursue the corporate ladder, I’d genuinely appreciate hearing your perspective on why you made that choice.

It’s not about one path being better or worse—I’m simply interested in understanding the reasons behind different decisions.