At what point do you accept dating apps just might not work for some men?
Is modern dating apps just a waste of time for a lot of average men now?
I’m a guy in Sydney, mid-20s, South Asian, (5 6" in height) work in hospitality/operations. Over the last few months I’ve genuinely tried improving my profiles properly instead of just blaming the apps: better photos, prompts, activity shots, profile structure, etc. read through most of the advice there is online.
Most of my photos score 8+ trustworthy and around 8+ attractive on Photofeeler, and even women on Reddit usually say the profile/pics are “good” or “above average.”
But the actual conversion into matches is almost zero.
The weird thing is I’m not even chasing Instagram model types or expecting insane results. I literally just wanted to meet someone I vibe with naturally.
At this point I genuinely can’t tell if:
* apps are just cooked for average men
* I need candid/raw/polished pics. (I probably have everything).
* demographics matter way more than people admit *if there’s some invisible social/lifestyle factor that matters more than attractiveness itself
Feels like there’s this weird zone where you’re good enough to be ok, but not enough for actual results.
Anybody else experienced this after genuinely improving their profile?