21F never been in a relationship before, I've attempted dating numerous times and it's never really gone well.
I've been talking and meeting up with this guy who's also my besties best friend and he's such a lovely person, he's funny, has a great personality, caring and I can go on and on lmao. He's also been hurt a lot by past girlfriends and has major trust issues (he's confirmed this)
The first time we met, we cuddled but it wasn't really that intimate or anything, before then I had actually confessed I liked him and he said he wasn't looking for a relationship atm because he's really busy and just happy the way things are. That obviously kinda confused me after the whole cuddle thing, but I kinda brushed it off as a cuddle between friends I guess...
Since then we have texted every single day non stop, called some days as well and he even invited me over and I stayed the night. Nothing happened besides cuddling and falling asleep together. But he did actually admit he likes me, finds me very attractive and thinks a lot of me (not to mention the compliments) and would even go as far as dating me if it wasn't for the fact that he's just really busy with work and band stuff and doesn't think it would be fair on me if he did that which I really appreciate and respect, but considering what he said before and the cuddles etc its kinda messed with my head a bit because we have continued to talk a lot more and compliment each other even more to the point where he's telling me he misses the cuddles and wants me to come over again soon lol
Don't know if it's just me being very inexperienced or just dumb but I'm getting super mixed signals here and would like to know if anyone can understand what's happening lol. I've talked to my friend about it and she said to just go with the flow and see what happens but it's difficult to do that when he says and does stuff like that :') I'd like to talk to him about it when I next go over but I genuinely don't know what to say without it sounding like I'm trying to push for a relationship in some way? I really like him and think a lot of him so I don't want to hurt him in any way or spook him
Would appreciate any advice as it's playing on my mind a lot🙏🏻 thank you