u/Final_Mammoth_6412

I recently started a new student job in my masters program. through my job I have access to some other students grades. I saw a lot of my peers bad and good grades and told myself I’d keep this all super private.

but I made the dumb mistake of telling my best friend in the program 3 peoples grades who were doing well (e.g: “X got 4 As which explains their job at xyx, Y got good grades too a couple As, Z got a bad grade but also some really good grades). We are in a really competitive program and the topic of grades comes up a lot and I guess in the moment I didn’t think too much before sharing these grades. I didn’t share any of my peers grades who were doing badly but I know it’s just as much of a breach to have shared those who were doing well.

I talked to my friend and told her it was my mistake to tell her and I trust she won’t share it but I feel so guilty and don’t know what I can do. I feel like I broke my own trust and I know from now on I’ll be very very careful with the privilege I have through any job. I just can’t move on because I keep worrying about this. I don’t want it to come up but don’t know if there’s something I should do to amend my mistake?

I have a C+ in property but a B+ in everything else. I am soooo distraught about my property grade. how bad would this be for big law/OCIs? I go to queens

I have a C+ in property but a B+ in everything else. I am soooo distraught about my property grade. how bad would this be for big law/OCIs? I go to queens

I (23F) was in a group chat with two close friends and mentioned a guy I'm talking to. One of them (let's call him X) responded making a very clear joke that I should lose my virginity to this guy, then made another sexual joke after I said ew. I brushed it off in the moment but it sat with me.

Here's the thing — X has brought up my virginity before in passing and I genuinely can't tell if there's some underlying judgment there or if it's just his humor. I'm not insecure about it but it's a personal thing and something feels off when it keeps coming up.

When I texted him about it I said something like "that virginity comment was a bit gross, I don't want to feel uncomfortable sharing normal things with you." But that framing made it sound like the joke itself was the problem and that I'm generally sensitive about sexual humor — which I'm not at all. What actually bothered me was the pattern of him specifically bringing up my virginity and not knowing what's behind it. The "uncomfortable sharing normal things" part was about him sometimes being dismissive when I'm being genuine, which is a whole separate issue I accidentally lumped in.

X responded saying I seem to have stricter boundaries than anyone he's known and he doesn't know how to navigate what to say around me anymore. The energy felt a bit hostile but I tried clarifying that it wasn't about the sexual humor at all — I just felt dismissed and accidentally focused on the wrong thing.

We talked it out, he apologized, and literally the same day we were all on FaceTime laughing together. At one point he stopped himself from making a joke and I forced him to say it and we all laughed.

But it's been 3 days and it's mentally eating at me. I feel like I never fully said the real thing and now I'm worried he thinks I can't handle normal sexual humor when I genuinely can. I don't want to bring it up again — I've already said enough and just want to move on.

What's bothering me most is that I'm usually the most chill person in my friend group, the one who's down for any joke and wants everyone to feel completely comfortable around me. That's the dynamic I've always had with X and I feel like I've messed that up by addressing this so poorly. I don't want him walking on eggshells around me. He also mentioned that none of his other friends have ever had an issue with him like this, which has stuck with me and knocked my confidence a bit.

So AITA for bringing this up the way I did and potentially making my friend feel like he can't be himself around me? And for anyone who's been in a similar situation — is there any way to undo the eggshells feeling without bringing it up again, or do I just have to let time do its thing?