u/Final_Ad8840

My partner and I are expecting our first and only child in September. We decided to start planning our baby shower and locking in the date since most of our friends and family work, travel, are out of town, on vacation, etc. In the summer. He decided to invite his sister who he has a contentious relationship with. She was all excited and they got on a call with their mom to discuss travel plans etc. She told him that she was planning on bringing her 3 children (all under 5) and her husband along. He said that's fine but the baby shower is no kids allowed and you'll have to find accommodations. Well that went over poorly with her. She expected to stay at our house. She tried to guilt him saying they cancelled a huge family vacation to be there and we should be willing to accommodate them. I will be 8 months pregnant while still working full-time and he will also be working full-time about an hour away. We both started new jobs so we have no vacation time and didn't plan on taking any regardless. We will only have one vehicle as well and I will be working from home. We also have a dog that is very reactive to strangers especially strange children - like she's utterly terrified of them and despite me trying to keep people's kids away from her when she's leashed and in control, kids still run up on her and she snaps at them. (We are working on getting her acclimated to a baby knowing all this and have spoken to the vet). So I guess are we the assholes for not hosting her entire family and changing what we want for our baby shower to accommodate her? There's other details I'm holding off on as I'm trying to be as neutral sounding about this as possible 😅