u/Filthy_dog00

I’m looking to buy a mattress for co-sleeping with my 4-month-old. Is there a specific firmness level I should be looking for? What about thickness?

Would a twin size be enough? Also, any good online retailers, preferably in Canada?

My baby is very squirmy at night and will start crawling soon, so I’m also considering bed borders or a Montessori-style floor bed (not sure what it’s called).

What’s your setup for this age? I’d really appreciate any advice on making it as safe as possible while still getting good sleep for everyone.

I’ve been trying to establish a bedtime routine with my 4-month-old pretty much since birth. We do have a routine - kinda: PJs, a very short massage, closing the blinds, feeding, then rocking. Every other day we add a bath at the beginning.

But it rarely goes smoothly… Sometimes he’s already too tired and gets really fussy, so it feels like he doesnt care about the massage since he’s already crying. Other times he’s not tired enough, n those days we add reading a book. Sometimes he won’t feed, so I rock first and then nurse him to sleep. There’s always something, and the order keeps changing.

I need to say - I do watch for sleep cues, but he barely shows any. I mostly rely on wake windows timing, but most of the times I’m 10-15 mins too early or too late and it makes a big difference at this age.

So I’m curious: what does (or did) your bedtime routine look like at 4-5 months? How long is it? Do you follow the same order strictly every night, or switch things up? And did it actually make a difference? If so, when did it start to help?