u/Fifi-123

I 50F had a year-long Match subscription, during which I had 2 relationships. So my profile was hidden much of that time. However, when I first got on Match and the 2 times I unhid my profile, I had 100 or more likes in the first few days.

Monday I re-joined Match. My subscription had run out, so I polished up my profile and joined as a silver member, I previously had platinum. I have only received 2 likes, and 6 men have viewed my profile. No other activity at all. Does anyone know why this would be? Do I need to upgrade to platinum so men see my profile? I am not saying I am a hot commodity, but something seems off.

Why is it that almost immediately after being dumped, I realize that I totally had rose-colored glasses in my relationship? This has happened to me after both of the relationships I have had since my divorce. Suddenly I can see all of their faults that I casually ignored while we were dating. It certainly makes it easier to get over them, but I hate that I settled for so much less than I want from a man. Maybe I just love having someone in my life. I would love advice for avoiding this in the future.