Unwanted advice (buying a house)
My SO and I have been living together in an expensive rental for several years. I am now ready to buy a house, and after looking at a lot of options, we decided on a property that is nearly finished being renovated. The loan will be in my name, as I have a more stable income, but we plan to split the costs evenly. My father is a carpenter and several other relatives are experienced in construction, so I am not worried at all about the practical or financial aspects of the renovation.
However, this situation has highlighted my SO's enmeshment with his family. I explicitly asked him not to tell his parents about the purchase yet, as I knew how they might react. After staying silent for a month, he blurted out that he was happy we were buying this house, and the downfall began.
His father told him it is a terrible choice and called it a "shithole," despite it being freshly built and located in a central, up-and-coming district. He continued sending messages late into the night and again this morning, insisting we "don’t buy" and listing numerous things he claims are wrong with the house. None of which are true. What makes this even more frustrating is that his work is completely unrelated to construction, he has no professional basis for these claims. MIL is usually supportive, but if the FIL decides on something, she would be on his side.
Now, my SO has started telling me that he doesn’t like the house anymore and is worried about the problems his parents listed. I know I am still going to buy the house, but this behavior makes me question our relationship, which, apart from this issue, has been good. If anyone has experienced something similar, would love to hear your advice..