I’m struggling with my son.
I don’t even know how to start this. Me (female) and my wife (also female) are struggling on being on the same page with our son’s behavior. He is 6.
Incident that happened today: after he got off school we got home and I had to go potty im trying to go when my son comes in and says he has to go poop so bad he can’t hold it, so I cutt mine short and get up tell him he can go then he “changed his mind” so I go back in there to finish (I’m 6 months pregnant and have been super constipated tmi) then he changed his mind again and he did have to go so I cutt mine short again for him to once again change his mind and it just pee, at this point I’m not gonna try again so I hold it until after dinner right after dinner I put him in the bath and I told my wife I’m gonna try and sit and go again right as I sit down guess who has to go again.. my son at this point I was actually having an urge to go so I told him I’m sorry but he has to hold it for a minute my wife says “if he has to go let him go” I explained he’s done this to me multiple times and I was almost done. Then all of a sudden he said “I went” except he didn’t go he just put his fingers up his rear and had poop on his hand. So i stopped going out him on the potty very frustrated cleaned his hand just for him to not even go potty!!!! So I told him that behavior is disgusting and got a little loud with him about it. My wife thinks there’s no problem and he’s just being a kid and I was wrong for telling him it was disgusting. I need to know if I’m in the wrong or not. This has been a pattern too every time someone has to potty he all of sudden had to go which is fine when he actually has to go but most of the time he’s just making us stop for him to change his mind.