Rough Patch
We’ve been together for about 4 years since freshman yr of high school, and we moved in together this past August for college. Since then, things have honestly been really up and down. We argue a lot, over both small and big things, and it’s starting to wear on me.
One big issue is living together. I feel like I’m constantly cleaning up after him. When he says he “cleans,” it’s not actually clean, so I end up redoing it. Same with cooking—I feel like I’m carrying most of the responsibility, and it’s frustrating.
Another issue happened in December. I went through his phone (I know, not great), and I saw him watching TikToks of girls twerking. When I asked him about it, he brushed it off as just his FYP, but I also saw he had gone to a specific girl’s account. When I tried to talk about it, he wouldn’t really give me a straight answer and just said “it’s not that deep.”
After that, I reacted immaturely and started snapping some guys—nothing serious, just saying hi—but when he found out, he called me a “hoe” and said I was cheating, which felt really hypocritical.
Now our lease is coming up for renewal, and I don’t want to renew it, but he does. He keeps saying I’m “throwing everything away,” but honestly, I feel drained. He calls me out of my name during arguments, makes me feel bad about money sometimes, and overall I just don’t feel supported.
I know I’m not perfect either, but I feel stuck in this relationship. Like I can leave, but at the same time it feels really hard to actually do it. I just feel kind of trapped and cooped up.
I really need some advice. What would you do in this situation?